Where would we be without comic relief? I went to see the new movie “It’s Complicated” with Merril and Dori last night, and laughed to the point of forgetting time and place. There was one part of the movie, though, that brought me back to reality, but in an odd sort of way.
Meryl Streep has gotten herself into a very complicated relationship with her ex-husband, Alec Baldwin, who has moved on and married a much younger woman. Naturally, Meryl is frantic and totally scattered about what to do. She descends upon her therapist, unannounced, begging for time with him to discuss the “situation.” She wanted him to tell her what to do. It’s funny that so many of us are like that, me included; that we look to those whom we feel are best-equipped to tell us how to live our lives. At any rate, Meryl is talking with abandon, completely opening up and her therapist is listening intently. She concludes by instructing him to tell her that she’s doing a bad thing. I found his response very fascinating, and in a twisted sort of way related it to my own situation. The therapist told Meryl that he had never seen her so open and willing to share her thoughts and feelings, that perhaps the “affair” brought this out of her, and she should just go with it. This “bad” situation that Meryl had found herself in helped her to see herself better by sharing with others, facing things she felt deep within her gut and reckoning with them, thus opening herself up to new and better possibilities.
And how in the world does this relate to my situation? Uncomfortable, sad, and bad situations tended to make me retreat. Keep things inside. Not talk about it. Suffer silently, and subsequently worry myself into a frazzle. Blogging has been incredibly redeeming, rewarding, and emotionally freeing. What I write is one thing, it’s just the tip of the iceberg, and has allowed me to think and feel to the point of seeing things differently…in a good way. I have been able to take this bad situation, turn it around, and give it some benefit.
Fortunately, I don’t need someone that I perceive as a wiser, better-equipped person to tell me what to do. Cancer is serious business. Surgery is not an option. It’s a non-negotiable. My sister, Anna Marie, called in the middle of my blogging. She happily reported that I only have three days to go; that I should get excited because in only three days the surgery will be practically behind me. Interesting way to look at it, but true. So in only three days, I will take on this new and uncertain adventure, with the certainty that everything will work out just the way it’s supposed to.
Like Daughter, Like Mother: Our Thyroid Cancer Journey
Behind the Blog
Adelina is a full-time wife, mother, practice manager, and medical transcriptionist. After receiving an ultrasound and countless biopsies, she was diagnosed with papillary thyroid cancer on December 11, 2009. She successfully underwent surgery on December 29, 2009, and had her first radioactive iodine treatment in February 2010. Following treatment, Adelina now sees her doctor once a year for follow-up. She has been doing well, and refuses to let cancer slow her down.
Dori is 26 years old. She was diagnosed with papillary thyroid cancer at the age of 17 on June 1, 2006, just three days prior to her high school graduation. Dori endured two radioactive iodine treatments and two surgeries to remove her complete thyroid and 39 total lymph nodes from her neck. She is now under close watch by her doctors, and only time will tell if the cancer stays at bay.